Self Esteem

Self esteem is not to be confused with conceit.

Do you have a sneaking suspicion that you are an unloved, under paid, unattractive, misunderstood, overweight loser? Brace yourself, now. If your mind actually believes that to be true, it will make you do things that not only perpetuate that belief, but it will also make others believe it too. IF YOU THINK YOU ARE A LOSER, YOU PROBABLY ARE. You need some self esteem!

Now that we have that straight, here’s the really cool part. Your brain doesn’t care if your beliefs about yourself are positive or negative. Either way it will fulfill whatever prophesy you throw at it, simply because you believe it.

If you believe you are smart, attractive, well adjusted winner, your subconscious will find ways to make it so, and your attitude will cause others to believe it too. Have you ever heard the phrase: You are what you eat? Well in a sense, we can rationalize some truth into that. Here’s the big truth: YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK.

People tend to minimize or downplay their achievements, and sensationalize their faults. What I do know is, if you visualize yourself the way you want to be, believe it, and never compromise these thoughts, you will slowly become that new you. You will start doing little things that will make your visualization reality.

How do you go from the belief you are a loser to believing you’re a winner? First of all, do whatever it takes to gain self-confidence. If you have to get svelte or lose weight or get another job, only you know what would give you more self-confidence. Do it!

As you become more self confident, you will feel it and so will others. You will start to put standards on yourself that before didn’t matter, and movement toward where you want to be will gain momentum.

One thing, though; you can’t get to where you want to be if you don’t know where it is. In other words, set goals and work toward them. Don’t just commit to “losing weight” or “getting in shape.” You must be specific, using actual numbers, dates and details pertaining to what you want. There is more on goal setting later, so consider this a primer.

No matter how much of an inferiority complex you have, look inside yourself and there is always something that you can do better than others. If you do have a complex, you will tend to down-play your positives. It’s time now to take all the things about you that are good, and play them to the hilt.

Brag about your drawings or your poems or stories, or how smart you are in math or how well you sew, anything! If you can’t make yourself brag to others, brag to yourself. In your mind, you know what it would take to dump the low self esteem.

If you don’t, just ask yourself what it is that the people you think are better than you have that you don’t, and get it. If it’s looks, that’s a hard one, but not impossible. Everything else can be changed. Hey! Lose the low self-image! I just told you how.

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